Wine Glass

I must of being about 10 years old when my mum spied these pink wine glasses in the shop window. She stood there with a battle going on in her mine between longing and guilt.

I don’t think I ever remember my mum buying anything for herself, she took the bus or walked ever where, she had very little but was always tidy even though nothing was ever flash or new.

Standing there it was one of those moments etched into your childhood memory when you opened your mouth as a kid and later regretting saying it as a adult.

It was along the lines of “That’s really expensive Mum” and her guilt doubled.

I wish I said “Yeah mum you deserve it, go for it they are made for you”

But no a 10 year old doesn’t quite get it, do they.

Fortunately she did buy them, she thought they were just beautiful, maybe she wanted her life to have more beauty in it or friends that would come around and she could celebrate with.

Later mum said she regretted buying them as they were too expensive and from guilt they sat in the china cabinet every since.

34 years later, they finally ended up in my home, still with the stickers on them.

I keep them as a reminder of that day, and when I use them I am reminded my mother who had a soft gentle heart let her self worth be defined by the price of a wine glass.

Moral of that memory.. Cherish and Love yourself always

Kaz

Pressure

Guilt is pressure to change, but when the perception is wrong its a ball and chain.

But for us poor softies, lovers, carers, females, mummies… the flip side for us, it can be our nightmare ball and chain. We feel it in the wrong ways, and that emotion leads us to push ourselves much harder than what is required from ourselves.

Things that we shouldn’t feel guilty for, but we do – because we believe our stupid perceptions.

I give you the permission to sledge hammer the ball and chain, for the stuff below.

Guilty pity party ends here now for these big fat lies

No guilt for needing rest and recovery, for asking for more help, or importantly for saying NO.

No guilt for experiencing adventures, enjoying the fruits of your labour and embracing life’s wonders.

No guilt for learning – for trying and failing – which is very important experience you need. Your failures are life skills and new knowledge you need in order for your future, one which you don’t have a clue about yet.

No guilt for feeling like you are not living up to other peoples expectations, you are made differently and have a different purpose.

No guilt for following your own path in life, pursuing your dreams, or for doing the things that light you up inside.

No guilt for being different from others and requiring different needs to be healthy.

This is just standard stuff a person needs to live a healthy life.

Own that you need love and nourishment – not guilt and self sacrifice.

You make the rules for your life and you can change your perceptions – that is your sledgehammer and your power is to say NO more Guilt and NO need to explain yourself.