a little history of IB…

Hi I’m Kaz

I created Inspire Belief 13 years ago, inspired by my Mum after she passed over when my little girl was born, like 18 hours after.

She led a life of not believing in herself and not following her dreams, and she really deserved too. I would have followed that path, except I was more of a rebel and stubborn, I call those qualities now courage and persistence.

Inspire Belief stopped, I tried to keep it going, but it was like trying to push a boulder up a mountain, every turn a door closed. Something I was so passionate about began to feel more like stress.

It was just the beginning; my dream was to inspire and help, so life threw me more, to make me more.

The years followed with more challenges, struggling farming conditions, family high court proceedings, losing the farm, divorce, losing the majority of your assets, caring for terminal family members, 18mths in a coercion abusive relationship, isolation
and then
my beautiful happy son with autism reached puberty, his brain changed, and he couldn’t cope with life, his behaviour became extreme, and my life went into lockdown, more isolation.

Finally, my foundations crashed. I couldn’t go on with how I was living my life.
I was still everyone’s rock, and I had to find my light again,
I was it.

My kids needed me.

I couldn’t change the circumstances. But I could change how I was dealing with them and how I dealt with myself.

So I reforged myself, with all the experiences I’d gained. I became more, a new version of myself.

Now my daughter is happy, my son is happy, and I am happy.

I also now have so much more to offer you, 13 years ago I started with the creative stuff, then life took me on a journey of challenging discovery, now I have so much more to share of value.

Inspire Belief 2.0, it’s not just about the dreams anymore, it’s about developing the skills in life so you can grow, and the belief that you are deserving and unlimited.

I want to help you thrive.

Lessons you don’t expect

What you think you are expecting to experience becomes something entirely different.
Five months of looking forward to this and finally it’s here.
Here I am Day One at Rally School NZ and learning the navigator’s role and feeling alive.
Role on Day two rally driving lesson time —— but I’d taken sick the night before.
I didn’t know it, but I was time for me to finally learn a lesson that’s being on constant repeat for a very long time.

Being a stubborn person, it has taken me a long time for me to learn, life had to basically shackle me for months on end to finally learn this one – Dealing with Disappointment.

We all have these lessons throughout our lives, a behaviour that holds us back – when we finally get it, it gives us new skills to broaden our horizons.
Other people can see what we are continually doing wrong, same lesson, different scenario, we are so blind to it we blame others or life.

But when you get it, when you finally step out of your square, and you can see for yourself what you do, life changes for you.
Life is a tough teacher, and it’s one significant learning experience – the intelligence of it all blows my mind.

My repeating lesson of fearing disappointment and my avoidance of it was a fear holding me back.

Lessons that were ingrained in you as a child, become your big life lessons to learn as an adult they are part of your purpose.

Once I understood what I was doing, it was easy. I had to stop avoiding the emotion of disappointment, I had to embrace and feel the wave of emotion instead of fearing it, then I could step back into a natural state of peace quite quickly again, and life could take on a new clear view.

Do you know what your current lesson is?
Something that keeps recurring, it will be the thing you say ‘it’s happening to me again, or ‘here we go again’.

Learn it! Repeating hurts.
Your life will transform – it’s a treasure in disguise.

So getting back to my lost adventure day:
I’m booking in for a later date to catch up on my driving time; my life didn’t end for me! The disappointment wasn’t a door shutting! it was a new door opening. 🙂

So all in all pretty productive weekend – all the tools we need are never out of our reach.

P.s if you ever think about an experience that you won’t forget, Rally Drive NZ won’t disappoint.

Always be prepared to pivot

The plan – easy peasy.
1. Gates are set, just ride up to the calf’s, open the gate, let them onto the race. Pony didn’t stop.
2. Scrap first plan and pivot. Send working dog in.
Working dog not working today, stops calf’s from leaving paddock. Lots of swearing.
3. Scrap second plan. Pivot. Open second gate without dog.
Second pony gets in way, someone stands in gate. All but 10 leave the paddock the rest run stay in paddock.
4. Scrap third plan. Pivot. Grab the pony myself (never used pony before )
Pony tries to rear and ride backwards, I bale off onto shit covered paddock.
5. Scrap forth plan, be patient everyone stop and let the calf’s walk out quietly. Done. 1Omin job takes 40mins.
Plans often get away on you. Be prepared to pivot, and don’t forget to laugh.

A Gift in disguise

A GIFT in disguise

When you are ready, there comes a new chapter.

You may feel like shooting the messenger, some of us do, the messenger is usually painful, but remember eventually to say thank you and give them or the circumstance, your love and gratitude.

People and experiences will come into your life to help you change; you will be challenged.

Your soul will yearn for change.

My gift in disguise challenged me immensely; he taught me how to live my life, some times I am so grateful I have moments when I have wanted to grab them excitedly and thank them for showing me of what I needed to learn – their ego was a bulldozer. Still, their soul knew mine, and it was on point.
(Forgiveness is what brings, growth, love and peace)

When you start on a new chapter, it’s scary, anything is new but don’t fret about feeling lost, your soul knows what it’s doing; it is our ego that has no map. Give it time, you will see.

Accept you are the decision-maker, whatever you are telling yourself, it will become your reality; no one else can give you your happiness; only your soul knows how to do that.

In the new chapter, it’s about how to care, respect, and how to love yourself entirely (warts and all). I was challenged to start creating an environment and life that would support me to flourish and shine.

My gift in disguise was a flame that mirrored back to me what I needed to learn.

My advice for those that have started this new chapter and even feel like they have hit rock bottom – start right where you are, to rebuild you had to be broken, now you can build new foundations (congratulations). The old foundations didn’t serve you anymore.

Start by focusing into pumping love into yourself, like you would a brand new lover, be compassionate, forgiving, and open your heart to anything. Because when the student is ready, the teacher will arrive.

Welcome to your new world, make it about love.

Love Kazia

How are you feeling?

How many times has someone asked us how we are feeling?

And we reply good.

Are we? Or are we just OK?

OK, sadness, flat, angry are all acceptable in time frames in our lives, those emotions are not avoidable for anyone, especially if you are going through growth, it goes with the territory.

When you are not in the growth stage, do you want the answer to be just OK, how you slipped into spending the majority of your life in OK or fear?

Do not waste your life in OK or fear when you don’t have to be.

It’s easy to fall into a rut, and we slip into feeling OK or other fear-based emotions forgetting what good feels like.

Awareness is like waking up and realizing, ‘Shit what am I doing to myself’ ‘I’m meant to be spending my life – in love with life.’

You can’t blame your personality or the I’m the too old thing.

We can start rewriting how we think and talk to ourselves anytime. The stuff we tell ourselves in our heads is what we end up feeling.

Our personality is continuously charging; you are not who you were when you where 16 are you? So don’t ever believe you can’t develop, you have been doing it your whole life.

If you are feeling OK, it’s because there’s more inside you.

Start taking control of how you see yourself, what you do and the choices you make. It takes time; you have habits to remake; patience and compassion is a great place to start.

Incredible emotions come from inside you, always accessible. They take nurturing and love to develop within you, someone else can’t give them to you, but they can influence them, you decide how, so be mindful of your surroundings.

You are NOT broken enough that you can’t heal.
Embracing that feeling that you do not want to feel like that anymore, gives you the power to hit a crack through your ego, (the fearful thing that holds love back) to rebuild your foundations.

Embracing your capability to love creates a light to shine through – you are beautiful.

I want you to feel that love.

You deserve more than just OK.

Have your own Back

Don’t remember the past in a way that drains you.

The present or the future cannot be the past.

Remember the past in a way that empowers you – Yeeha stuff!

Memories can either disempower or empower you, and that comes from the way you view them.
Even those triggers, the painful ones, they hold plenty of treasure as they hold the information to transformation. (See how I rhymed there 😁)

Change how you view something, then fix something, and it can create an entirely new experience.

STRESS COPING TIPS

I’ve developed these coping strategies for my personality and life situation, and have designed them to so they support my personal growth and stop me from going insane. They may help you in some way, so I’m opening up to share them with you.

I’ve had some pretty big challenges, but by far the long term challenge is that I have a special needs child

And as any parent with a special needs child will tell you it is enriching and life-changing, but also at times incredibly hard. Many times my boy has pushed me past my limits – fortunately, I’ve discovered my limits aren’t fixed anymore they keep expanding each time they are pushed through, and my coping strategies are tools that strengthen me and help me expand my limitations.

It’s my responsibility to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled so I can create a loving environment for my kids, so they can flourish. I’m no supermum, but if I didn’t expand as a person, I wouldn’t cope.

Your belief system will determine how you adapt to life challenges/lesson plans. I believe that my challenges are the making of the person I’m yet to evolve into, specially adapted for my purpose, which gives them meaning and myself strength.

I’m not fudging the part that sometimes I totally forget this meaning bit, and I’m completely feeling ‘oh woo is me’ whilst wrapped up under blankets on the couch, by the morning though, I’m a warrior again.

So here are some of my top 5’s for coping, that may help you 🙂

Copes for handling stressful situations, whether you are in the moment with them or under long term stress.

1.BE BOLD
Never hold the cry in as it’s double handling your emotions,
crying is an emotional release; it’s defiantly not a weak thing to do – real strength comes from showing vulnerability. And I’ve discovered if you let the tears fall freely you can keep thinking and keep going.

2. CHALLENGER
You are not a victim, feeling like one removes your power, which makes you feel worse.
You are being challenged to learn or change, finding your strength instead of viewing yourself as a victim reduces your emotional state, seeing yourself as a challenger empowers you. Knowing that you have something to benefit from this, refocuses your direction off an emotional state to a thinking state.

3. FUELING UP
You are going to run out of fuel, so analyze how you are coping.
We have to stop the whole “I just have to keep going” theme.

If you were a professional athlete, you would be looking at every area that would put you at peak performance.
Am I getting enough sleep?
Am I getting fuel to nourish my body?
What sort of mindset am I telling myself?
How can I use this to perform better next time?
What is my support structure?

Athletes know that they have to be self-centered to be at their best to compete. You are not competing (well maybe with yourself) but taking that mindset of self-development and applying it so you can perform emotionally better in your world.
It will be one of the smartest and thoughtful decisions you make for yourself and others.

4. LOSING THE PLOT

There are times when the pressure is high, and we spit the dummies ourselves, or adrenaline has pumped through our systems, and we feel like a freight train has just bowled us.

We are now in mush mode, to get back on track ASAP and minimize the effects of stress on the body have a prepared Emergency Repair Kit ready for yourself and know it without having to think about it, as your brain is mush at the moment!
Things inside your kit.

Belief 1#
You need to get your self-confidence back up off the floor, visualize achievements or proud moments in your life.
Write down your moments?

Strength 2#
Think of people that you respect that have similar qualities as yourself that you need at that moment. I have three friends; one reflects a warrior’s courage, another is determination, and the other is patience. They remind me of who I am and not the person currently on the floor. It helps me to get up. Who are your people?

Nourish 3#
Now that my belief and spirit is back time for TLC. That’s when you do something completely relaxing that shuts out the world. Might be a spa, book, and crackers, candles and cuddles. What makes you feel nourished?

Refuel 4#
You need some fun, and you need to laugh and feel alive again, so go do something that revitalizes your spirit. What makes you happy?

You need to have these answers already filled in, so they are ready to go; in the moment you won’t have the energy thinking about what you are going to do.

5. MAKE IT BETTER
Don’t be your worst emergy and continue the mouse wheel over and over. Even tiny changes will change the wheel, and the more positive changes you make brings you a sense of calmness and hope for your future.

SMILE and embrace challengers because we never leave the classroom.

Time for Experiences First

It takes a lot of failures before you have enough experience to make it work. 12 years later I’m starting my original dream with under my belt 12 years of failures/experiences that I needed first. So never think you can’t make something happen, you need time, lots of time. Kaz

Richard Branson Blog:

From crash landing a hot air balloon into remote waters to the short-lived dream of Virgin Cola, each experience helped shape later successhttps://virg.in/URx